Personal Growth
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Over Twenty Years of Struggling with Unnecessary Guilt
In July, the midnight sun of Northern Europe stretches the beauty of the city into 20 hours everyday. Enamored with such a summer, I often wander aimlessly around the city even at 11 p.m. One day during one of these leisurely walks, I received a rejection letter for a job I had previously applied for.…
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Understanding Attachment Styles: The Invisible Threads Shaping Our Lives
Have you ever found yourself wondering why you react a certain way in relationships, or why some of your interactions seem to follow the same old script? The answer might lie in your attachment style, which is formed long before your first relationship. Let’s dive into the fascinating world of attachment styles, how they manifest…
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Navigating the Candy Shop of Therapy: Finding the Right Therapist in a Sea of Choices
If you’ve ever been to an ice cream shop or a candy store, you know how hard it is to pick just one treat out of the many options. For me, and probably for many of you, finding the right therapist feels just as overwhelming. In today’s digital age, the variety of therapists—from cognitive-behavioral to…
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Water Is Wet
So, a few days ago, my mother approached me with an article she found interesting: https://www.forbes.com/sites/maryroeloffs/2023/07/19/teen-suicide-plummeted-during-covid-19-school-closures-new-study-finds/?sh=1050137fdd9b. Published on July 19th, 2023, the Forbes article reports the findings of a 2016-2021 study on the rate of suicidality. Now, because I am terrible at writing coherent summaries when I actually want to, I will be using bullet…
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The Ones Who Help Get You Toward Mastery
What are you really good at? How did you learn and achieve mastery? There were probably teachers and coaches who helped you along the way. Teaching is more than lecturing. It is not just showcasing your knowledge or performing. What makes a teacher good? I like Gage’s (1963) definition of teaching– “..a form interpersonal influence…
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Addicted to Achievements
Growing up as a high-achieving Asian, much of my confidence came from the accolades, and the praise my parents, teachers, and peers gave me for coming in first in the class, competition, etc. Before I realized it, my identity and self-esteem were tied to my accomplishments. My very well-intentioned mom pushed me to not only…
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The Heart of Every Quest Is A Goal
If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much. Jim Rohn At the core of every quest is an ultimate goal. Goals are our ambitions and dreams. When we set a goal, (Latham & Locke, 2002), whether it’s…
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Lava Pits and Siren’s Calls
With your quests, you’ve been guided by the best-proven success and productivity principles and set out to achieve something important to you. What you’ve already done deserves respect for the courage it took. But if you go off-track once in a while. That’s completely normal–You’re human. At these times, remember that all happy and successful…
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What Do You Seek?
Quest [ kwest ] noun 1. a search or pursuit made in order to find or obtain something: a quest for uranium mines; a quest for knowledge. 2.Medieval Romance, an adventurous expedition undertaken by a knight or knights to secure or achieve something: the quest of the Holy Grail. verb to search; seek; pursue. (often…
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The Ultimate Quest Of Your Life
Do you like being forced to do things you hate? Being left out of the fun you enjoy? What about not having enough money to ever take your dream vacations? Have you ever envied other people who seem to have perfect lives? You probably won’t end up anywhere nice if you don’t know where you’re…
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Who doesn’t procrastinate?
These are the most common excuses people use when they procrastinate—delay doing what they need to do. How many of these have you personally used? According to the American Psychological Association, almost 80% of the people surveyed admit to lying to themselves about the reasons they put off doing things. So, who doesn’t procrastinate? The…
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Fail First To Win
In school, when teachers ask questions, many kids might know the answer, but are too shy or nervous or unsure of themselves to raise their hands, get the correct answer and begin the positive feedback loop for confidence by receiving affirmation from themselves and their community. On curaJOY’s website, we discuss how children develop confidence.…
